Your purpose is more than is being presently exhibited to you

"the only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes.
... That's the beginning of growing up. As long as we don't want to be honest and kind with ourselves, then we are always going to be infants. "